Thursday, March 13, 2014

I have some great friends

One of the things that's become clear to me now that I'm leaving Canberra and heading off to Melbourne is how close my friends are. Some of them have expressed their sadness that I'm going. One of my friends told me that I'm the only real friend he has in Canberra, and when he found out I was leaving, he cried.

I cried too. I'm touched by the quality of friends I have in my life. I'm sad that I'm moving on. Most of these friends have been close to me for over 17 years now. Some of them are reasonably new, and yet the quality of our friendships are the same - deep, authentic, and heartwarming.

They honour me with their feelings, and with the connections they wish to maintain with me. I'm privileged to have such wonderful friends in my life. For as long as I've known them, they've always been there for me, and I think they always will be.

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They're all good people, who I've been happy to continue being friends with. Every single one of them. They've made an effort to be part of my life, just like I've made an effort to be part of theirs.

I'm going to miss them when I go to Melbourne, but I know from experience that the internet can maintain strong friendships, and sometimes even enhance them.

One of my good friends today was only an acquaintance when I moved to New Zealand in 2000, but via a mailing list I created to keep in touch with my friends, he and I became much closer through the emails we shared with each other. When I came back to Australia in 2007 we had become very good friends by then. All because of email, and our communications with it.

So to try and do what experience has shown me actually works, I set up a Facebook group last weekend, and added all my close friends to it. Those who are on Facebook, at least. Using the group, I'll share with them various updates and stories that I want to share with them, and hopefully they'll share their own updates and stories, and together we'll maintain our friendships despite the distance between us.

That's the plan, at least. Time will tell if it works or not.

I have some great friends. I'm thankful for that.

David, Ken, Garrie, Damien, James, Ella, David, Peter, Andrew, Nick, Stephen. I can't make all of you first in the list, but you're all first in my life. Thank you for your friendships. Make sure you keep in touch. You'll always have my love, and my gratitude.

5 comments:

  1. Dear Alan, beautifully expressed! It's true that by leaving Canberra you won't have quite the same opportunities to meet your friends, but you have now established such an in-depth capacity for writing about your thoughts and emotions that's it's almost as if you were present in person talking one on one to us; when you no longer needed to come to Sydney for business, it's true that I missed our frequent dinner discussions, but since then I've managed to see you a few times and of course there's been your informative, challenging, humorous and always personalized blogs to keep me company!! The move to Melbourne can only be good for you and Fanfan, so we friends can only be happy for you both in that respect. I for one know that Melbourne is an easier destination for me to see you both, than Canberra, so in that respect I can afford to be quite sanguine about the prospect, which just proves it's better to be born lucky than rich!! Warmest regards to you and Fanfan - Stephen.

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  2. Stephen, thank you. :) I look forward to more frequent catch-ups in Melbourne!

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  3. You'll make NEW friends Allan! I am here in Melb also!

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  4. I was thinking about you today. I'm sure we'll catch up for a beer or something at some stage. What do you usually drink? I usually drink coffee.... I've no interest whatsoever in going out to pubs or clubs

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